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3 WAYS A BOUDOIR SHOOT CAN HELP EVERY WOMAN

Self Love, Boudoir, GrowthMichelle Dorothea TuckerComment
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Most women view their body negatively. They think if they looked differently, that somehow then, their life would be better and they would be happier. This is why boudoir photography is so healing. There has to be a part of you that says fuck it, I embrace my body and I’m going to make time to shed my physical armor (clothing) and I’m going to celebrate by taking lasting images of her. I don’t need to wait to honor her. I will honor her now.

If your heart is open boudoir will transform you.

  1. If you think you need to lose weight or change your body to honor it, boudoir will shift you. Your external world is always a reflection of your inner world. You have to shift your inner being first. Learning to embrace your body as you are now and documenting these moments can be a catalyst for your change.

  2. You don’t think boudoir photography is important but it is. Boudoir is a tangible thing that will force you to face yourself. It’s exposing parts of you that you have kept hidden. It’s shifting the way you see yourself. It’s seeing yourself as whole. Boudoir is also discovering your sexuality. Sexual energy is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. Begin working with that energy and your whole world will open up. The cherry on top is that you walk away with tangible products that will continue to remind you of that transformative energy. It is very fucking powerful to wake up and to come home to a gigantic image of you looking strong, confident, and oozing sexuality.

  3. If you’re getting too comfortable in life and you miss that spark, boudoir can be just that. I know you’ve felt those moments, those glimpses into what life should feel like. You feel like you are floating, you have hope, you’re over-filled with joy. Those moments remind you of what life could be. Boudoir is definitely one of those moments because it boudoir is an act of self-love, of self-acceptance. It’s scary and it’s exciting. It’s ripe with opportunity for growth. It’s ignoring parts of you that you’ve kept hidden for most of your life. It’s stretching you out of your comfort zone and once you’ve experienced that you can’t go back to how you were before.

Imagine coming home. It’s been a long day and you’re tired. You take your shoes and bra off. You walk to the fridge and pour a glass of water, or wine, or whatever is your style. You walk by your living room and you see a massive 24x36 portrait of yourself. You stop and smile. In that moment you remember how much you love yourself. You remember that you make time for you, even when you feel like you don’t have any. You remember how much you deserve. You remember that you don’t settle. You remember that you are bigger than anything in the physical. You remember that you are being divinely guided. And you remember that you are exactly where you are meant to be. Seeing yourself takes you back to the time, you jumped.

Imagine coming home. It’s been a long day and you’re tired. You take your shoes and bra off. You walk to the fridge and pour a glass of water, or wine, or whatever is your style. You walk by your living room and you see a massive 24x36 portrait of yourself. You stop and smile. In that moment you remember how much you love yourself. You remember that you make time for you, even when you feel like you don’t have any. You remember how much you deserve. You remember that you don’t settle. You remember that you are bigger than anything in the physical. You remember that you are being divinely guided. And you remember that you are exactly where you are meant to be. Seeing yourself takes you back to the time, you jumped.

And this is just the beginning. Boudoir can help you with:

  • Body issues

  • Confidence

  • Healing trauma

  • Nudity hangups

  • Re-wiring your mind

  • Self-love

  • Sexual freedom

  • Strength

Are you feeling curious? I welcome you to dive deeper into my website and learn more and if you feel called to, contact us here.


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HOW MUCH DOES SELF-LOVE REALLY IMPACT YOUR LIFE?

Self Love, Growth, HealingMichelle Dorothea TuckerComment
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If you guessed it’s everything, you are correct. Self-love is always number 1, my loves.

You can only love others the way you love yourself. You can only give to others the way you give to yourself. You can only give compassion to others the way you give compassion to yourself. You can only help others the way you help yourself. You can only understand others the way you understand yourself. You can only see others the way you see yourself.

If you're feeling drained it’s because you are giving too much to others and not enough to yourself. Maybe you're even convinced that your giving to others is in the name of love. That is not love, dear. That's you putting your energy into something else, preventing you from healing yourself. People will go their whole lives and never heal because they’ve built this fear that they can’t endure the pain to heal themselves. The truth is that healing is self-love. Healing is you embracing all of you, the darkness and the light. And through this self-love, your true self will come forth.

Photo by Engineerings Akyurt

Photo by Engineerings Akyurt

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Right now is a new moment. Tomorrow is a new day. Next month you could be in a completely different space. Next year you could be living the life that you have always hoped for. In time you can be in alignment with who you really are.

I know you've been able to feel glimpses of what your life could be. You've had moments where your hope is sky high and you feel that surge of energy. You've felt alive in those moments. That's who you are. That's your guidance system, your soul reminding you of you.

Are you listening?


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WHY YOU DON’T NEED TO CHANGE A THING ABOUT YOU (INCLUDING LOSING WEIGHT) TO EXPERIENCE A KICK ASS BOUDOIR SHOOT.

Boudoir, Self Love, Healing, GrowthMichelle Dorothea TuckerComment

The number 1 rebuttal I hear from women interested in a boudoir shoot is that they need to lose weight first. And while I understand where they are coming from, I’m not at my ideal weight, let me tell you what I learned during my boudoir shoot.

A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE WILL CHANGE THE WAY YOU SEE YOUR BODY My body does not look the way I would prefer it to look. I’ve realized that hating it is not the way to move through this. Learning to love all of myself while always striving to push myself forward is the healthiest way through this. Shedding your clothes in front of a camera, refusing to hide anymore, is you making a declaration to embrace and love ALL of you. This is how you begin to change the way you see yourself. It begins within.

IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT YOUR BODY LOOKS LIKE I’ve been thin and I’ve been heavy and you know what? I felt unworthy in my own body both times. When I was thin I still saw myself as heavy and when I was heavy I saw myself as heavier. I love myself more than ever now and I am still not at my ideal weight but I’m happier. You know why? Because I’m taking steps every day to love ALL of me.

SOCIETAL STANDARDS OF BEAUTY IS A BUNCH OF BULL SHIT Throughout time the idea of beauty continues to change. If you see portraits of what was thought beautiful in the past and compare it to what is considered beautiful now you will see that the ideals vary. What does this mean? It means it is all bull shit. Don’t get lost in external and fleeting ideas of how you should look to please others. The only opinion that will ever matter is yours. Fuck everybody else’s.

When I finally received my boudoir images I must admit there were a few that I did not like. For the most part, I felt I looked heavier than I saw myself. I told my amazing photographer Teri Hofford and she told me something I will never forget. She said that I needed to spend time with the images that I did not like and learn to love them. I can honestly say I’m still working on falling in love with them but I definitely love them more than I did originally. Most of all I’ve learned how important it is to learn to love my body in a healthy way. In a matter of fact, if I think about the one thing that I’ve struggled with my whole life, it’s my body. And I know that once I fully move through this, I will be so much more powerful than I am now. Think about how far you and I can go, if we stopped hating something as big as our bodies? If we woke up and loved the skin we were in, trust me, we would move differently.

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CHANGES TO MAKE FOR THE NEW YEAR TO HELP YOU REACH YOUR FULLEST POTENTIAL

Self Love, Healing, GrowthMichelle Dorothea TuckerComment

2019 is here my loves. For a lot of us every year just repeats itself. We go into a new year hoping that this will be the year that it all changes. This will be the year that we are finally living the life that we’ve dreamed of, only to slowly fall back into what we have been trying to let go.

The reality is that we will not change until it’s our time to change and there is no magic pill that will give us the life that we so wholeheartedly want. What I can do is offer guidance with the wisdom that I have learned that has helped me. I will plant seeds that will begin to grow but it’s up each of us to love ourselves enough to do the work.

HEALING: You have got to heal. Do you know right now there is so much trauma in you that you are not even aware of? It sits in your subconscious and since your subconscious mind is what runs you, it will always be projected into your loved ones and the decisions that you make. Even in having a perfect childhood you will still have trauma. Get into therapy. A good therapist is like finding your new home. You will know after the first session. If you don’t want to come back then see a different one till you do. Your heart and mind must be open to therapy for it to work. A good therapist does not tell you what’s wrong, she/he guides you so you will discover it yourself.

REWIRING YOUR MIND: The majority of your mind is from ancient cave-man days and it wants to keep you comfortable and comfortable is what’s familiar. So anytime you try to deviate from what you are used to, your mind will automatically convince you to stay in the same space that you are already in. On top of the fact that society is programmed to keep you in a constant, unhealthy state from our education, television, music, etc. Re-wiring your mind is easy to do but it does take persistence and dedication. Affirmations are amazing. Play them every day in the background. I love youtube for this. There are affirmations for everything. When you play them you don’t have to be actively listening to them because your subconscious is always listening. You can write down affirmations as well. Another way to re-wire your mind is to learn of others who have changed their lives. Most likely, you are in your head thinking your life can’t change. You need to expose yourself to people who have changed their lives so your mind can see that it is possible to change and so then, change can become normal.

Meditation can make you feel like you are in another world.

Meditation can make you feel like you are in another world.

MEDITATION: The average person has some 50,000-80,000 thoughts in a day. Think about how much power exists in our brain. We need to learn how to better focus that energy. Meditation not only calms your mind but it calms each of your 3 trillion cells. Keep in mind that meditation takes practice and the more you do it, the better you will become. Do however long you can and work your way up. Two minutes or five minutes is a great place to start. Concentrate on your breathing and whenever you have thoughts, don’t judge them, then bring your awareness back to your breath. The more you practice you’ll experience more and more time in silence, with no thoughts.

LAW OF ATTRACTION: This is a gem that has changed my life. Law of attraction is like energy, attracts like energy. Everything is energy and what you focus on, you will attract more of. The universe will literally create something out of nothing, just for you. Extremely successful people have around 30,000 thoughts a day because they focus and loop the same thoughts throughout their day. They control what thoughts they have and attract what they want into their lives. What can be difficult with the law of attraction is that despite what is happening in your external world, you must keep your focus on what you want. You must keep your focus on your inner world. This takes practice and the more you do it, the better you will get. Research, research, research. A great place to begin is to search Abraham and Esther Hicks on youtube.

HEALTHY ENVIRONMENT: It’s important as you do this work that you are in a supportive and loving environment. If you don’t have that then look online for support groups. Surround yourself with energy that lifts you. You will see that as you continue to shift, you will attract people and things into your life that are more aligned with what you want. Remember, this is a process. You will have to let go of people and things that no longer serve you. You will have to spend time alone with yourself, getting to know yourself. This is detaching from who you have identified yourself to be for so long. It is extremely painful and having an environment that drains you is going to make this process that much more difficult. You have power over who and what you expose yourself to. Make decisions that create a healthy environment for yourself.

Every word on this page is here for you to discover new ways to fall in love with yourself. I want you to know that you can live the life you want in every capacity but you have to make changes. You have to dedicate yourself to let go and grow. You have to know that there is nothing wrong with you as you are. You have to know that everything you are always seeking, is really just you seeking self-love and through self-love, you will attract everyone and everything that you want. So join me, in living a life that we truly want to live. It’s time to stop surviving and start striving. In every moment, we have the opportunity to turn it all around.

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